Forget Red Bull, Therapy Gives Me Wings

Last year my father died. We didn’t have the best relationship; but, his death and family tensions surrounding his death threw my mind into a tailspin. Not only did my dad’s death throw me for a loop, my job was stressful, I was dealing with a toxic love life and an overall dissatisfaction with the previous state of my life. My brain was literally fried trying to figure out how to navigate all of my issues. Mental health memes, social media pages and meditation apps could no longer save this machine that ran out steam. I felt lifeless — depleted of energy. I needed wings to soar to my highest potential. The popular energy drink Redbull is said to give you wings to keep going; but, even that couldn’t give me the strength I needed.

When I have a toothache I go to the dentist. When I’m having musculoskeletal issues I see an Orthopaedic Surgeon. Having a baby? I head to the OB/GYN. Likewise, my emotions or mental health, if you will, was out of whack so I found a mental health therapist. She didn’t work for me so I kept looking. A mental health therapist is just like any other service provider. Most likely you want to use a hair stylist or barber that you trust and one that suits your needs. Well the same goes for your healthcare providers. I set out to find another therapist with a similar background to mine. I found one and it’s been magical so far.

Now let me clarify I’m like a poster child for seeking and receiving mental health therapy. I see it as my biggest act of bravery for self — self-care if you will. I have witnessed many people go through traumatic experiences and they don’t seek help. I always wonder if they know the damage that does. I never want to be that person. According to, in 2017, over 45 million Americans had a mental health illness and less than half of them received mental health services. No comment on that statistic!

According to, the top four mental health counseling benefits are:

  1. Relieve Stress
  2. Get A Different Perspective
  3. Overcome Serious Health Concerns
  4. Find Solutions To Your Problems

I couldn’t have written this list better myself. These are the exact reasons that I seek mental health counseling. As I mentioned, recently my brain was fried around the time that my dad died. I was frozen by my stress. I couldn’t stay like that — or at least if I did it would be to the detriment of my health. With the help of my therapist I have been able to recognize cognitive distortions, that is biased perspectives, in an effort to change my thoughts. We should all know that changing our thoughts for the better will inevitably lead to a better life. And if you didn’t know, now you know!

I’m on like my 10th therapy session. I feel more confident and ready to take on anything that life throws at me. I’m more hopeful and happy. I’m constantly learning how to perfect the art of being my own best friend. Because, after all, if I’m not confident and comfortable with myself I will look outside of myself first for love and happiness. That’s a big NO, NO!

Does mental health counseling give you “wings”? Tell me all about it in the comments or send me a private message. As always, thanks for stopping by. See y’all soon!

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